I Don’t Know How To Do This but…

As I sat in my living watching an episode of “Super Soul Sunday”, Oprah speaks with author Paul Williams and Co-author Tracy Jackson, I found comfort in hearing these words from their book Gratitude & Trust...

“I don’t know how to do this but something inside me does”

Most days I feel I’m all over the place wondering where? what? or when? will I run right smack into what I’m meant to do the rest of my life. But I can’t and it won’t because it’s a process. And it takes time.

Truth is I don’t know how to do “THIS”:

Blogging

Entrepreneurial

Writing

Hair-styling

Coaching

Modeling

ETC…

However, I know I don’t want to play small. I want to be “GREAT” and I will continue to keep striving each day till I am. I know something inside me does!

 

 

Hair. Beauty. & Beyond!

It’s all you butterfly, run with the bulls!

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My hair is my everyday accessory.

My beauty lies in both my inner soul & outer body.

Beyond is the trust of my journey!

I’ve been the average kind of person who thinks “Life Happens To Me.” Every day that I don’t put an effort keeps me believing in that quote.  Every step, progress and every effort I give each day can change my belief into “I Make Life Happen.”

I’ve been stuck in caterpillar mode for a long time. It is time to take this slow walk into a leap, fly in the same direction & run with bulls!

Thank you for your support always!

Gwen

 

 

I’m Feeling Good

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I was asked by my co-worker why I was in a good mood today and I had to stop and think for a sec. I realized no particular reason at first but then it dawned on me.

I have been working out and staying on course with it for the past 4 weeks and lord knows I hate working out, so that’s a PLUS for me! 🙂 I’ve been working on my Abundance University workshop and nearing the end of it.

I’ve also been reading two books:

1.) “How to Transform Your Life – A blissful Journey” by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso

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2.) Self Coaching 101 Use Your Mind – Don’t Let It Use You by Brooke Castillo

They both relate to the mind and thoughts and how we can overcome the unwanted or negative thinking we create and bring us closer to inner happiness.

Bottom line is, I am feeling good. I’ve made some small tweaks in life and I’m creating new habits one day at a time.

Here are 8 tweaks I’ve done to date:

  1. Workout 6 days for at least 30 minutes.
  2. Got an accountablity friend.
  3. Reading 2-3 times a week (for now, gearing to read everyday). Feeding my mind with positive information.
  4.  Smiling more.
  5. Sending messages to friends & family. Praising them or thanking them.
  6. Hung up my vision board, I made 4 years ago, up on my wall to remind myself of my future I have ahead.
  7. Sent out my first email to three amazing women I know and informed them that I am licensed facilitator for Danille LaPorte’s Fire Starter Sessions book and wanted to set up a workshop with them to build up my facilitator skills.
  8. Started a gratitude jar (need to work on the consistency part).

What tweaks have you made in your life to feel good these days?

I’d Love to hear from you. Please share!

Love ya.

Xo

Lady Gwen

 

Accountability: Who holds you accountable?

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We’ve all heard that if you want to meet your goals or achieve something you really want, you need “accountability.”

Strangely enough, someone from the past and barely knew, has offered to help me!

I am Grateful. 🙂

Monday evening, I went out to dinner with someone who I knew of back in high school, but I never socialized or knew anything about him. His name is Mike. We were never in the same circle of friends.  However, he is close to one of my girlfriends, Marianne. She also went to same high school and they both work in the field of Real Estate. During her 4oth Birthday party last month, he and I met for the first time since school.

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It’s funny how the universe works people in and out of your life.

In conversations with Mike, I got to know who he is.  He is smart and really ambitious when it comes to his success.  Our friend Marianne said that he is one of their biggest realtor in their office and he’s really good at what he does. The way he spoke, I felt how passionate he is about his work, where he is headed and what he wants to achieve. It really inspired me.

I shared with him about my life quest, what I was not sure on what I wanted to do and how I want success too, but I haven’t experience the feeling of “How BAD do I really what it?” sensation. He agreed that I was all over the place. I have so many ideas but not one solid foundation to start with.

We went through all the criteria…

What’s your Why?

What holds you back?

What are you goals?

If it’s not in writing, it doesn’t exist!

I expressed to him, I don’t know how to set goals. I’ve never really had a need to set goals in the past. I’ve pretty much just lived my life by the seat of my pants. Day in. Day out. I had my mom to support me and be my cushion to fall back on. Don’t get me wrong. I worked jobs to make some living and not completely rely on her, but I didn’t push myself harder to achieve more.  Which is why I struggle today.  I had no ambition for anything before. I was very comfortable with life. Till NOW!

By the the end of dinner, it came down to being accountable and having someone to help me with it.  I told him about programs I’ve invested in to help me find my way.

Have you heard of the “Abundance Factor” movie?

Have you heard of Riley Dayne?

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If you have AWWWWESOME SAAAAAUCE!  If you haven’t YOU MUST WATCH. If you liked or loved the movie “The Secret”, then you will enjoy this one also.

I bought Riley Dayne’s program “Abundance University” back in February. As I stated in my last post, Owning Your Truth, the procrastinator that I am, I had started the program but then stopped.

Same withB-School by Marie Forley. I bought that one two years ago and I still haven’t worked on the program.

I have great intentions to want to move ahead, I just need that spark to ignite the momentum and consistency behind it.

Mike said he understood my emotional struggles with myself and was very empathetic in what I’m going through. He has faced and still faces at times, the ups and downs and pushing through the barriers that holds us back.

He has offered to be my accountability person.  He is holding me accountable to work on these programs, which I started today, and let him know when I’m done with every module I complete. I must also be accountable on the days when I can not complete tasks and tell him why I couldn’t get it done.

This encounter with Mike, in the most unforeseen moment, has made me an even bigger believer in what you ask from the universe you will receive.

Someone once asked him..

Do you want to be SAFE or GREAT?

He said ever since that question he knew he wanted to be “Great”.  It was a very powerful question. Like him…

I WANT TO BE GREAT!

What do you want to be?

Who holds you accountable?

 

I’d love to hear from you.

Please share.

Xo

Lady G

 

 

 

 

 

Happy 4th of July!

Good Morning.

Have a beautiful 4th of July with your loved ones!

 

 

Xo

Lady G

Owning Your Truth

Self Sabotage

Here is my vulnerable truth. I’ve been unproductive on this blog. I haven’t done much of my “40 Good Deeds” I announced I would be doing for a year the day of my 40th Birthday.

Brain & Heart Struggle

I am struggling. Struggling with my head, heart, mind, body & soul.

I struggle to stay focused on my  9 – 5 job, to understand the INS and OUTS of becoming an entrepreneur, finding my passion, being alone (no husband or significant other), being a present mom to my son when I’m with him, yearning for financial freedom, and finding inner peace (aka happiness) without all the external material hoopla and people.

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Reading, Reading, Listening, Listening…so many inspirational talks after talks. Investing in self-help programs after another self-help program. Feeling as if I am getting nowhere.  It makes me CRY and my heart ACHES most of the time. They are all so wonderful, yet it all wears me out!!!

Here is my other truth…

I am a “PERFECTIONIST.”

You know the kind that thinks about doing all kinds of ideas, waits for the right moment to work on it, thinks about them…thinks some more, starts them but never follows through…Yep that’s me!

Oh and did I tell you I’m a procrastinator too? It’s exhausting being me sometimes.

The seeker, the perfectionist, & the Lazy Bull.

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I say “The Lazy Bull” because I am a Taurus and being lazy is one of our negative characteristics.

My home is probably the biggest down fall for being lazy.  I literally get home and I don’t want to do a thing. I know…this is how most people feel when they get home. Right? (Sigh) I just want to sit on the sofa and watch TV.

TV is one of my biggest ADDICTIONS!

Knowing I want to leave my 9-5 job, have quality time with my son, family & friends, have financial stability, live life on my own terms and have inner peace; TV takes over these presence more frequently than not. Ain’t that a bitch!

There are days I make myself sick thinking of how much TV I watch that I fantasize about hitting it with a sledgehammer and completely getting rid of it from my home.  But I can’t & I don’t.

(Funny. I couldn’t find a modern version of this ith a flat TV LOL)

Every few, far and between moments, I get one good day, maybe two in a row, and I become the Nike logo “Just Do It”! I get a sudden burst of energy and I just want to rule. I get shit done!

NO TV.

NO TV

I want more of these days.  I need to take the “Work Smarter, Not harder” phrase and apply it harder on those days to kick-ass.

I just need to figure out what my clear system is to get more momentum. Find what steps or methods that suit me.

Here are few things I know about myself:

  1. I definitely feel that energy pull or vibe in me that knows I am meant for something more.
  2. I know I don’t want to give up today.
  3. There are days I can see my clear vision of where I’m heading.
  4. I’m a visual person. I like to watch and then do.
  5. I like to learn hands on with a one-to-one person or in a small group.
  6. The internet gets my mind all worked up with overwhelmed amounts of information. Therefore, I’ve buying excessively too many programs to find the easiest way to get to where I want to be. However, no such thing. So I understand there is no “easy” way around success. I’ve got to put in the work.
  7. When I feel sluggish, lethargic, no stamina (which is most of the time) it’s hard for me to get going. I’m pretty sure sugar is my enemy. (Need to go “cold turkey” as they say).
  8. I know I need to get over my biggest HUMP about myself to be able to succeed. “Fear”

What is your truth? 

What are your struggles?

 Got smart tips?

If you’re like me, struggling and want to share your truth, please share!

I would love to hear from you.

Thanks.

Xo

Lady G

 

 

 

Should I be frighten of Online Dating?

Current situation: Single. I would like to test the waters. Terrified to meet someone online.

 

I would have never imagined myself to be single at 40.  I have always been the relationship type. Now that I’m single, I don’t know how to date. Is there a manual, please, for the emotionally crippled?  Is it a good thing or bad thing to be a relationship type person or should you know how to be the “dating type”?

Before I used to meet someone through school, friends or work. Now, at 40, I have to go online and swipe left if I don’t like them or right if I do.  WTF!  I used to meet someone in person and if there was a spark, we’d flirt, be friends and then POW “RELATIONSHIP.”

If I was single for like a split second, I would be that person who goes along in conversation with the guy who was brave enough to come over and speak to me. Even though I had no intention of going out with them, I would give them my number and then I would ignore their call.  Or when the conversation came to the point where the guy would ask me if he could take me out I’d say “I’m sorry but I have a boyfriend” just so they wouldn’t feel bad and so they’d leave me alone.  It sucks to do, but sometimes for me, turning them down gently that way made me feel better.

I’ve been alone for 8 months now and I’m still not so sure I like it.  After my break up back in October, I set a goal to be free of men for at least 6 months because I was emotionally spent.  First, it was my divorce. Then, my 1+ year relationship breakup.

I struggled with not being with someone for a few months at first. Cried a lot. By the sixth month, it got easier. Still, at the eighth month mark it can still get hard at times to get used to it.  However, I have learned to enjoy the alone moments much more so now than before.  It is nice to come home and not say a word to anyone. When I don’t have my son, Hudson, I have what some women wished they had, even if it’s for a few hours – some alone time! I am grateful and I do appreciate it! 🙂

I have joined two dating websites and they freak me out.  Here are my reasons why.

  • The unfamiliarity of not knowing the person face to face.
  • I don’t want men that I don’t find attractive to keep notifying me.
  • Seeing someone on it I already know. (which I have LOL)
  • Someone I know seeing me on it.
  • It’s just so freaking weird to me currently.

You would think knowing you can now swipe left on the online dating sites, I’d feel less guilty about it. LOL Nope, I don’t. GRRRR I feel every time I do swipe left the guy can see me doing it and I hear them say “Well that’s just rude” or have that sad disappointed look.

Unfortunately, I’ve been doing more left swipes then right ones!!!

Currently, I have been messaging with two guys but one stop writing me.  So I’m just messaging with one.  Still no question of whether we should meet yet.

I’ve been watching Sex & the City reruns again and as much as they are funny as hell, there is some truth to these episodes. When you are single, all the married people are more magnified and in your face about not being in a relationship.  And as you get older it is seems to be much harder to meet someone the old fashion way.  They should create the modern version of the show and called it “Sex & Swipe left or Right City.”

Women in the city must still have a better turn out meeting someone in person as much as online.  Unlike us women in burbs, it is a bit more difficult and have no choice but to find them online.

What is your dating situation like? 

Have you tried online dating?

How has it worked out for you?

I’d like to hear from you. Leave a comment below.

XO

Lady G

 

Good Deed #1 – In Memory of Alivia James Singleton

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A year ago today my cousin Jocelyn and her fiancé lost one of their twin daughters, #AliviaJamesSingleton. She was diagnosed with IUGR. Both Alivia and Arianna were both born 7 weeks premature.

IUGR: “The most common definition of intrauterine growth restriction (IUGR) is a fetal weight that is below the 10th percentile for gestational age as determined through an ultrasound. This can also be called small-for gestational age (SGA) or fetal growth restriction”. http://bit.ly/2qFvXA9

The girls were able to spend the holidays with the family at home in 2015 after being in the hospital for a couple of months but unfortunately baby Liv (Alivia) did not do well and ended right back at the hospital shortly after. She was a strong fighter to the very end. Her poor body could not withstand any more poking or prodding. My cousin Jocelyn and her fiance Lamont had to make the hardest decisions of their lives and let go of their beautiful daughter.

Last weekend they gathered together with friends and family and walked at the March of Dimes in Pittsburgh, PA. Not only did they walked in Love & Honor of baby Alivia James and Arianna, but for those beautiful babies who are born premature and those who did not have a fighting chance.  Please take a moment to read Jocelyn’s beautiful story from the March of Dimes “Why I Walk.” http://bit.ly/2p2paDn

 

I wasn’t able to be there with them to walk in Love for Alivia and my cousins, but there is something I can do in her honor.  I have made a GoFundMe account to raise $500 and donate it to the March of Dimes on behalf of Alivia James Singleton.

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Please help me raise money towards all beautiful babies who are born premature and the doctors and nurses who work hard at keeping them stronge at their early stages of life.  My heart goes out to my family and those who have lost a child due to unfortunate circumstances as infants.

Today, Aliva’s sister Ari (Arianna) is doing very well and is a moving Diva! She makes our family smile from ear to ear with her silly ways and beautiful face. We are pretty sure her twin sister Liv is watching over her and guiding her through her days. 🙂

 

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Thank you for your support!

Love Always.

Xoxo

PS. I also dedicated this to my sister. Her son (my nephew) Evan Andrew was born premature also. He just turned 8 years old and is doing very well.

Thank you. 🙂

 

My 40th Birthday. 40 Good Deeds.

A Birthday shout out to all who are turning the “BIG 4-0” this year!!

Live the life that makes you happy and be free!

Turning 40 doesn’t feel or seem as old as I thought it would when I was in my 20s.  Yes I felt pains and aches back when, but  now they are just the same only magnified just a bit louder then they used to be. LOL. I still feel youthful though. I still feel and act like a kid at times too. However, I do feel and see the difference in maturity and awareness than I did my 20s. Leading up to my 40s, life is shifting into a more intentional and purposeful one.

I originally thought about having this big celebratory “Masque” party for my 40th Birthday.  I wanted to party it up and be the center of attention. Who usually doesn’t, right?  However, I was already fabricating in my head, because I am such a procrastinator, everyone rejecting me.  Then my pity party synced in too. I started feeling sorry for myself because I am not in a relationship where I didn’t have to plan my own birthday because my partner would have been doing this for me. On the other hand, if not a partner then a family member or a friend could be thoughtful enough to want to plan something big for me since it is my “4oth Birthday.” Hello! But as I was get trying to figure out what I wanted to do for my BIG 4-0, a party just didn’t sound so interesting anymore.

Tony Robbins states, “Emotion is created by Motion” which means, “the way you move determines the way you feel.” http://bit.ly/2oS2ci9

“The way you feel emotionally affects the way you feel physically. The reverse is true. When you are moved physically, you are moved emotionally, too. How you move affects the way you think, feel, and behave. Movements such as running, clapping or jumping alter your body’s chemistry. Change the way you move, and you will change your feelings.”  NLP – Motivational

I want to feel ALIVE, ENERGETIC, JOYFUL, & PASSIONATE. So I am making my move! One of my goals these days is to live life intentionally. Therefore, I decided to take this milestone birthday and put it into ACTION.  For one whole year, from this birthday, 4/26/17 till next year’s birthday, 4/26/18, I will be doing “40 Good Deeds”.  I will be “Paying it forward”.  Whether it’s small or big, one-on-one, in a group or for humanity I will lend a hand and give back to my community. Along the way, I will be blogging about my journey and share them with you as well.

Jennifer Lopez said in her book True Love, “In your 20s you think you know everything. In your 30’s you find out you know nothing. And in your 40s you realize you’re not perfect and that’s OK.”

Thank you.

Love & Happiness.

Xo